|... the ritual of opening the bar, as practised in the daylight ... |
... a ritual to be practised in the dark of a movie theatre next ...
Take giving eye contact, for example. Bonnie, Kelvin, David and I have a new way of getting information to one another.
No yelling from one room to another, or even calling across the room to someone’s back.
|... David practices the folding technique ...|
So three of us? Yes to eye contact. With David – let him learn in the best way for him, letting him seek the contact with us, but not demanding it from him. Now this seems counter intuitive to my old practices. But it is the way that works for him. I try to change. I am not so old yet that I can’t learn how to do this. And that is what I have learned from Bonnie. In short? Ask another child a question. They will respond in a second or two? David? Wait 8 seconds for his response. Count them out on your hand behind your back. Eight seconds is so long for me that by the time he gets to the answer, I have forgotten my question.
|we practice throwing our wrappers on the floor|
even knowing it is allowed, it is still hard work.
Three years ago, Bonnie invited a therapist to work with David in his home environment. I watched Leanne’s pedagogy to see if I could imitate the work Bonnie and Leanne were doing. My latest practise event to model their teaching method was wondering if I could show David how I used to eat a Cherry Blossom in a movie theatre when I was young. I must have been triggered to try this experiment when I was looking at Word of the Day from Dr. Dictionary.com and noticed a small essay on how chocolate bars got their names. I bought those chocolate bars, brought them home, told the stories of how manufacturers named chocolate bars to David, we looked at specimens of the chocolate bars, touched all of the wrappers and he ate the ones he was interested in.
|... finally! unwrapped and ready to investigate ...|
“This should be done in the dark of a movie theatre, so just imagine it is dark for now. The first step is to hold the silver paper in one hand and carefully peel away the silver wrapping. Put the Cherry Blossom down on one of your knees. On the other knee spread the tin foil out so that there are no wrinkles in it, fold it in half then quarters, then eighths until it is a tiny piece you can hold between your fingers. Then throw it on the floor along with the yellow box, because in movie theatres you are allowed to drop items on the ground and not feel bad ... like if pieces of popcorn fall out of your popcorn container, it is O.K.
|Cherry Blossom Shell|
perfectly cleaned out of all of that cloying sugary sweet stuff inside
|... the scooping ritual practise with the baby finger ...|
I watch a few more scenes in the movie.
Take another bite of the chocolate and continue with these steps until the Cherry Blossom is all gone.
I think to myself, ‘That was the perfect treat.
Of all of the chocolate bars at the theatre candy stand, I choose the best one. And I will choose this one again next Saturday when I come to the Roy Rogers matinee’.
|David in fear ... this dessert is to much for him|
Now back to what I have learned from Bonnie. To introduce a food to a child who has a diagnosed disability, you may have to try 17 different ways. The next time that dessert is Cherry Blossoms we will cut hem in half and see if we can get the filling into a dish and the chocolate into another, much the same way one cracks an egg and separates the shell from the edible product. Then I will have two Cherry Blossom experiments done, and only 15 to go.
| ..David captured with his classic look of utter disgust ...|
this may look like boredom or ennui to you
but it is David's expression of absolute disgust